Deacons: Deacons And Wives
by sacramental grace, deacons are dedicated to the people of
God, in communion with the bishop and his presbyterate, in the
service of the liturgy, of the word and charity.
Deacon’s wife) also must be of good character and must
not gossip; (she) must be sober and honest in everything.”
perfect wife—who can find her? She is far beyond the price of pearls. Her
husband’s heart has confidence in her, from her he will derive no little profit.
and not hurt she brings him all the days of her life.
deacons are married. A
deacon’s wife plays an important support role during his
years of formation and after ordination. So intimate is their partnership and unity in the sacrament
of marriage, that the Church requires the wife’s consent
before her husband can be ordained a permanent deacon.
of the best opportunities to grow in her knowledge of the diaconate
and its impact on her and her family is to participate in the
formation program to the greatest extent possible. At the same time, her own spiritual growth is enhanced. After ordination, there are continuing opportunities
available to the wives and widows, such as personal prayer,
Scripture Study/Sharing Groups, participation in the ongoing
Deacon Study Days, and Deacon, Wives and Widows Retreat. These are all great opportunities for prayer, study,
sharing hospitality and community building.
terms of official ministry, there is no specific role for the
deacon’s wife. The deacon’s ordination does not confer any ministerial
role to the deacon’s wife. Yet the unity of the deacon and his wife is a sign to
the entire parish of the unity of Christ with his Church. Many times the deacon’s wife serves the parish
or local community in a concrete way herself. After ordination, the deacon and his wife may work together
in various ways to build up the kingdom of God. The deacon and his wife can show how the obligations
of family, work and ministry can be harmonized in the service
of the Church’s mission.
- On Being a Deacon's Wife by: Martha Nelson
- The Formation of Deacons' Wives by: Karen A. Harmeyer
and Maria Thompson MacLaughlin