the Family Member or Friend who will be giving a reflection
on the life of the deceased:
Please accept the condolences
and prayers of the people of the Diocese of Albany as
you mark the passing from this life to the next of someone
with whom you have been close as you mourn their absence.
The family has entrusted you with a sacred task in asking
you to speak on their behalf
These guidelines are offered to assist you in your preparation
and the delivery of your remarks.
purpose of the reflection is to draw attention to the
deceased as his or her life bore witness to the Gospel
of Jesus Christ.
question for you to consider is how did he or she most
1. in their relationship with others,
2. their perspective on right and wrong,
3. their suffering,
4. their faith in our Heavenly Father's concern
for all people?
- Christians believe that in death life is changed, not
ended. Wherever possible consider not only the past
and significant events in the person's life but also
look forward to the time when all the faithful will
be together again.
story or example is a helpful means to illustrate a
one person may speak at a funeral Mass. This may be
done following the Prayer after Communion or before
the funeral liturgy begins. Reflections on the life
of the deceased may also be given at the Vigil for the
Deceased (wake service)
and / or the committal. More than one person may speak
at these times.
remarks are limited to no more than two to three minutes
is appropriate and recommended that you review beforehand
what you intend to say with the priest or pastoral minister
who is assisting the family in preparing for the funeral
liturgy. Additionally, the diocesan Office of Prayer
is also available to help you, if needed, at
Rehearsing your remarks aloud will help you to prepare
and feel more self-assured when speaking during the
no time is it acceptable to use coarse or profane language
or to engage in actions that would not ordinarily take
place during a sacred ritual.
Approved by Howard J. Hubbard,
DD, Bishop of Albany, January 31, 2006